Lola Omotayo in focus...

Story by Linda Ikeji
Last Updated:Wednesday, October 22, 2008

I was going to give Naija Entertainment News but I got into an arguement with my sisters this morning about something we read in City People Magazine. Decided to bring it discuss.

It's a very sensitive issue and something a lot of us women can learn from. It's about Lola Omotayo and Peter Okoye of P-SQUARE.

Y'all know they had a baby together recently and there's been a lot of talk on the side and in the media about them having a baby out of wedluck.

In City People this week, Peter granted an interview talking about his joy as a father and his intentions towards lola, his baby mama.

For those that thought it wasn't right and those that were disappointed, what was your comment?
Peter "I have heard series of things and people didn't want to come out straight to say anything. The good thing is that they were never against me going out with Lola. Most people were thinking the whole thing will disrupt my career and all that. That was what everyone was concerned about.

In your perception, how do you think being a father will affect your career?
Peter "I was thinking it was going to affect my career, but now, within a short period of time, I don't think it will affect me. I can take care of my child"

At Lola's age, her family would have expected that she gets married before she gives birth
Peter "Age is just a number. I'm happy her parents are very understanding people and likewise my parents.

Will you two someday get married?
Peter "No one has talked about that. People actually thought that I am married but I'm not married. Everyone knows I'm single but the fact is that if God permits, fine. I think children are blessings from God."

Now that she has a child for you, do you want to marry this woman?
Peter "One way or the other everyone is going to get married one day. Even when you meet a girl today as a girlfriend, you can imagining her as a wife, so we all have that in mind. My time would always come"

Here's what Paul had to say...

Are you looking forward to doing something like this?
Paul "It's a great thing but it has to be done the proper way. The right way. For me, my own plan will have to wait till I get married"

Do you think that Peter having a baby will affect the group in any way?
Paul "Well, I don't think it would affect the group at all because it's not as if P-SQUARE said if we get married, we wold quit music. Music is just there, it's not like if you have a child, you can't contest or anything. It will not affect except Peter allows it. Like when we have concerts and Peter starts thinking that today is my son's birthday and all that but that can't happen"

Do you think that in the nearest future, Peter would marry Lola?
Paul "I think when the relationship started but now, I don't think so. That's what I feel"

So here's what I want us to discuss as mature women. If you're 35years old and you've been in a relationship with a man for 4 years... and you start to realise he's not thinking seriously about settling down, what would you do?

Bear in mind that you are:
A. Successful, so you can take care of a child
B. 35 years old
C. Been with this man for 4 years
D. He's not trying to break up with you...just ain't ready to commit
E. Starting all over again isn't easy...especially at that age.

No woman really wants to have a child out of wedluck (I stand to be corrected)...but like they say, shit happens.
So if you find yourself in this situation, would you end the relationship or do what Lola Omotayo did, get pregnant and have a baby?

I'm asking this 'cos I have an aunt who's 37 years old and has been dating same guy for 8 years talk of marriage from him and I'm thinking maybe she should just have a baby and Fuuk marriage?

What do you guys think?

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10/23/2008 1:10:16 AM
Na wa oh for celebrites oh. them no de serious with this thing
call marrige atall
11/8/2008 12:39:45 PM
Na true oh, na so me i see them for every were i go! the only thing way them sabi no to be with a girl after a while they let that girl go fine thier way... especially when the girl is older than the boy.
10/23/2008 3:34:48 AM
This is the 21st century, marriage doesn't work for everyone and it is not a MUST DO. If they are both happy with the state of their relationship and want to have kids then there is no big deal. What is really important is their happiness.
10/23/2008 6:00:17 AM
10/24/2008 2:31:08 AM
at this century where women marries men,what stop her of having a child at the age of 35yrs,since she is capeabilly of take care of child.the truth here is she is more focus than the so called peter and also the under 16yrs.
10/23/2008 9:45:49 AM
If the girl wants to get married now and the guy is not ready(because he is still young)and time is not on her hands, I will advice her to move on instead of wasting more years waiting and blocking chances for someone new and who is ready to get married to come into your life. But if marriage is not an agenda, then just party on and be happy. If not MOVE ON TIME WAITS FOR NO ONE. Have a talk together if you two don't have the same dreams pls move on.
10/23/2008 11:38:23 AM
Hmm! that's tough. At age 35, for me o, I will have the child and move on with life. If the man is willing to act as a father, fine! but if not I will take care of the child myself. Frankly speaking, it is hard to start a relationship or courtship at age 35. As a woman, biology clock is ticking. I can understand the fact that a woman needs a man, but if the man is not coming move on. The gud thing is the baby!! It is hard, but aving the baby and moving on is the best. I won't be surprised if Peter ends up with a very young and innocent lady. If the lady leaves the guy with no child does not mean she will find a better guy at age 35, and if she bears a child and move on at age 35 does not mean she won't find a good man.
10/23/2008 11:44:14 AM
well as me guys wat i av to say is,if she is happy wt her man peter and she is not disbeurb ab the marraige issue fine by me,but paul take a look at it,4yrs of relationship and u still dont av intesion of getting married lola na wa,bros think am well oh
na wa oo
10/24/2008 1:18:30 AM
u guys here at are so silly and good and copyin and pastin s**t,
how come some i***t lifted directly word for word from someone's blogspot witout even thinkin of changin some words ?
isnt this a post from linda,s blog?

do u guys have eyes to read at all or u just copy things and paste for the sake of it?

10/24/2008 3:18:11 PM
U are the sick fellow did'nt you see that Linda Ikeji was giving credit or what of if Lida did the posting herself, or do say they are the one that wrote the article bull s**tt if NFC edit the article you will talk now they left it the way it was, pls try and read to the last end idiortttttt, that is the reason why you know fit put your name.If you are sick pls don't visit again, wereeeeeee
10/24/2008 11:45:32 AM
cheap talk,if peter is really into her,he will marry her,he doesnot appreciate her enough,another big mistake from lola,why did she get pregnant without a ring on her hand,when will women learn.
10/24/2008 10:12:51 PM
.... well, i believe if a guy wants a gal, nd wouldn't wanna loose her, d best thing is keeping her forever thru marriage.... i do not think peter is digging her that much nd paul as a twin is saying the truth indirectly.... LOLA did wat she thought is smart for a 35yr old... if she hangs on to him, she might waste more time, if she leaves, it will take her time to build another relationship... its all abt time...
10/27/2008 9:21:25 AM
what is the big deal about Lola having a baby without Peter marrying her? should she had aborted it ? she did the right thing by keeping the pregnancy. Nobody has the right to destroy a life once it has been created. both of them should have thought of protection before having SEX if they don.t want a baby. By the way what is she still doing with a guy for FOUR yrs{ at 35yrs of age} who is not thinking of marrying her !
10/31/2008 10:48:40 PM
Its not the wisest of things but thought it was their agreement that they have a child to safe face..There has been too uch talk about them for long and this is the result of public pressure.Lola can then say at least she is not barren,just that dream boy was not interested in marriage per se.Its a western madness for naija.Or he might be follwing the footstep of 2face.It doesn,t speak well for the continent we cherich so much
Uchenna Odo.
11/4/2008 5:58:20 AM
Na wa oh 4 women oh how could lola do this 2 herself? Geting pregnant 4 peter, now.
Uchenna Odo.
11/4/2008 6:11:59 AM
Na wa oh 4 women oh how could lola do this 2 herself? Geting pregnant 4 peter, now.
Uchenna Odo.
11/4/2008 6:12:20 AM
Na wa oh 4 women oh how could lola do this 2 herself? Geting pregnant 4 peter, now.
1/15/2009 6:10:03 PM
u are just been jelousy uchenna pls keep yr mouth shut.non of yr business ok........
11/6/2008 2:55:23 AM
11/7/2008 7:02:26 PM
I am looking for a good lovely caring sexy lady to spend the rest of my life with.... who is ready or the, please feel free to write me back here with my e-mail
11/8/2008 12:45:30 PM
nawa for this people oh...
11/10/2008 12:49:47 AM
Gal STOP wasting your time with him and move on koz if he is not ready to commit now then he will never be....
12/17/2008 8:48:37 PM
The girl is just being smart. I gave u 4yrs, still u do not feel lt deem to marry me, to console myself, I will get a piece of you and f**k u afterall. So at d end of d day, u r forever connected to me and I have my 4 yrs back. (the baby)

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