Joyce | 1/21/2012 10:39:51 PM | @ Onome, you are the person who are a total disgrace because you have displayed ignorance here ; by commenting like those women who have never travelled out of Nigeria before!
I have read your comments in the past and I am disappointed because I used to think you were an educated and enlightened person.
You say you live in Ireland and yet you do not know that there are marriages and there are "marriages"? You don't know the difference?
Shame on you, Onome! If you are a woman, then MAYBE you are in the group of those glorified mistresses and baby-mothers based in Ireland?
Majority of the women who call themselves "first wife " and call the 2nd wife , "husband -snatcher" are nothing but glorified mistress and baby-mothers who have lived with men for donkey years , without any legal and proper marriage ceremony.
Yet they are the biggest noise-makers; yakking about "my husband" and "husband-snatchers"!
Are these men their proper husbands or live-in partners who they produced children with?

Before you started condemning Mercy here and calling her "2nd hand material , 2nd wife", you did not tell us what type of "marriage" Mercy's husband had with his children's mother.
Was it a traditional or legal marriage ?
We all know what majority of Nigerian and African women mean when they say , "my husband".
Traditional marriage, even if you have 12 children for a man ; is an insecure marriage which leaves an open door for the man to acquire other wives.
Having four children for a man does not make you his wife .It is Nigerian traditional mentality to claim that your baby-father is your husband.
But legally, this is wrong. Marriage is a legally binding contract between a husband and his wife; irrespective of whether they have children or not. Your baby-father is not your husband , unless he marries you PROPERLY.
How can the 1st woman with four children "divorce" him if they did not do a proper wedding?
On what ground can she claim the right to divorce a man who was never married to her?
Also, this man could not have married Mercy, at all , if he still was in a legal and proper marriage with his first woman.
So who is the REAL wife of Mercy's husband?
Before God and before the law , if a man did not marry a woman legally ,that is marry her in the Church or Marriage registry ; then SHE IS JUST A CONCUBINE or at best a glorified mistress with children for him!
So Mercy Aigbe has every right to get married to this man and even to "blab"about it here, as you said; because legally , she is now his bonafide wife!!
Mercy Aigbe is NOT a husband -snatcher.
It is the other woman, like millions of women; who was careless and ignorant enough to consent to be a glorified mistress for many years, producing four children for a man who later opted for a proper marriage with Mercy.
If the guy REALLY loved her and wanted marriage with the baby - mother who had four children for him, then why did he not marry her legally before meeting MERCY AIGBE and marrying her?

MADAM | 1/22/2012 9:54:47 PM | May the good Lord of justice bless you for this write up, mind you i did not bother myself to read what Joyce the flagbearer wrote , i am very sure they are all one ten and ten pence (husband snatchers). Hi five Onome !