There hadn’t been any of those your-boyfriend-is-totally-about-to-dump-you signs. None of my friends had warned me that they thought it might happen anytime soon. He hadn’t mentioned any “problems in our relationship” at all. It’s safe to say that I wasn’t expecting to be single by the time I got home from school that day—but I sure was.
You’ve got to understand, this is my first serious high school boyfriend we’re talking about. You know, the one who I planned on marrying? The one I lost my virginity to? The one that I imagined being with for forever? Yep, that was him. One day we were perfect and the next we were over.
The following day at school I anticipated the worst: Passing each other awkwardly in the hall, having to sit near him at lunch and not laugh when he said something funny, him knowing that I had been crying during the minutes before class. But that “worst” doesn’t even come close to what really happened. Ready for it? Are you sure?
HE WAS WITH ANOTHER GIRL. Like really? How could he be so awful to me? They were holding hands and even kissing during passing period. I wanted to die. Cue the combination of humiliation and depression. Obviously our relationship had meant nothing to him–when to me, it was one of the most important things in life. How could I have been such an idiot for letting him mess with my emotions that way. I wasn’t sad anymore, I was livid. And I needed to find some way to get even with him.
If he thought he could just go off and be with another girl so quickly after our relationship was over, that sure meant that I could do the same with another boy. But not just any boy, I wanted to make sure that it was the one person that would hurt him the most—one of his best friends.
I knew which one to pick immediately; he had always been someone that my ex-boyfriend was jealous of. Without consulting my friends, I texted him the next day, asking if he wanted to hang out, but I’m sure he knew that I meant something more. When he came over, I was ready. There had always been some sexual tension between us but now, with my boyfriend out of the picture, nothing was stopping us . . . or me from having revenge sex.
We kissed and it was really great, but it just didn’t feel right. His hands moved up my shirt and I liked how it felt but hated that it was him at the same time. I went down on him and wanted to make it fantastic for him, wanted him to finish, but only so the news would get back to my ex boyfriend. By the time we had sex, I don’t even know what I was thinking. I only knew that revenge sex wasn’t what I pictured it would be.
It was such a convoluted experience of things I thought I wanted and the emotions that only made me realize how bad of an idea it had all been. I felt dirty and wrong. Believe me, the sex was good while it was happening (when isn’t it?), but the way it made me feel after was so not what I expected. Revenge sex is NOT all it’s cracked up to be in the movies.
I wanted to go back in time and forget the whole thing. I wished that I could have found ANY other way to get over this relationship. Anything besides having revenge sex. I just wish I had known that it would have felt so wrong. If I had, I would never have done it in the first place. Have you ever had revenge sex, or have you been tempted to do something else super bad to get on an ex? What was it, and how did it make you feel? Do you regret having revenge sex? Tell us everything in the comments! Click the link below to go to...E-x-c-l-u-s-i-v-e: ‘I Had The Wedding Of My Dreams’ Newlywed Actress, Uche JomboOkotie's Crashed Marriage: Celebrities ReactThere Is Healthy Competition In Ghollywood-Ghana-Yvonne OkoroPastor runs mad while praying for mad man in Ibadan Ex Bayelsa Gov. (Dipriye Alameiyeisegha) Loss $1,931M To US ZIK AND AWO, HEROES THAT FAIL US Stella Damasus, Daniel Ademinokan Become An ItemBetween Mercy Johnson, Funke Akindele's Wedding, Which Was More Controversial?
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Last born | 6/30/2012 5:12:48 PM
Too bad 4 d ladies, guys, lyf wil surely goes on n on....... Reply this thread
Crystal | 6/30/2012 5:28:54 PM |
Shutterstock, why do u choose 2 spoil our sight wit dat penguin shaped body? wel, heartbreak sucks bt chics shd knw beta, I cnt hav revenge sex! who'll b losing? abeg, whether ur 1st or last b strong, hav self control n move on!
ANNA | 6/30/2012 6:21:33 PM |
First of all i hate girls like dis kai girls dat are obsessed with boys i soo much hate it.Why is it dat u girls love a guy more dan he loves kai not in my own love book.The revenge sex means absolutely nothing,it's meaningless and in vain.If u want take revenge on ur ex HAPPINESS AND MOVING ON.Let him knw u cn do without him,d next day after d breakup smile frm ear to ear like u have never smiled b4 infact he'll be doubting if u ever loved him while d both of u were still togeda,he will also question if he ever made u smile b4.Just ur smile alone will pain him ehn,den u make him knw ur better than his ex,d next and the rest biko mtcheew u went to give one boy free of charge sex na wa o,hving sex with his best friend just shows dat his bestfriend hijacked his sloppy second,d best frind used his already used material,u made ur ex d bettr guy btw he nd the bestfriend.Dating a new boy is not even a revenge because he'll feel ur trying to use dat one to get over ur emotions,do things he has never seen u do b4 things dat makes u happy kai when he evn says something funny u laff ur ass out(dat is maturity)infact he'll be shocked like a nepa cutting light nd got shocked,u cn even be frnds with his new gf sef not bestfrnds o.I hope dis is not anoda goldie biko.Anyways am always d one dumping boys sha o i dont always waste time,one mistake nd ur dumped lmao.
love is bitter | 6/30/2012 7:07:16 PM |
if i may ask, was reveng sex? shmmmmm my dear na ur kpekus u dey share, at d end of it all bought ur ex and his frnd will only make jes and prescribe how ur kpekus luk like.
my dear Anna pls always ave it in ur mind dat there is someone dat feeds with ur comment and dats me, i respect and love ur comment alot yu too dey make sence pls kip it up.................
Lalaland | 7/1/2012 1:24:31 AM |
First of all woman if that is your real body in the picha then I ain't surprised that your boyfriend cheated on you! Go and loose weight and have a good body fir crying out loud! Secondly if you wanna have revenge sex na you sabi! Did you feel berra afterwards? No! Ehen nah that na ya cup of garri! We men will always willingly fhuck any woman wey wanna fhuck! Mtchew!
ANNA | 7/1/2012 11:01:26 AM |
I appreciate hun
Amybaby | 7/1/2012 7:02:59 AM |
Anna wht a gud comment uv jst made,i luv u sooooooh much 4 dis,can we be frnds?,dis is my nos.
ANNA | 7/1/2012 10:37:44 AM |
Sure i love friends alot,am very nice o lol
Nikisha | 7/1/2012 7:08:22 AM |
Annah, God bless u for this comment. I know u are a very intelligent lady. Any babe wey dey have revenge sex, u r finished. U r adding petrol to ur fire o.
ANNA | 7/1/2012 10:38:07 AM |
Amen o dont mind dose yey girls lol
Abbey | 7/1/2012 2:21:56 PM |
I really lyked ur comment!
ANNA | 7/1/2012 4:39:14 PM |
Thanks very much :)
Cynpora | 8/4/2012 5:56:15 AM |
i love ur spirit girl
ANNA | 6/30/2012 6:26:41 PM |
Madam so u never sleep mtcheeew na wa o lol.B4 u blast me it's just evening here but am sure it's past midnigt or dey always browse for ya meeting there.Coperate witches lmao
hapiiiiiii | 6/30/2012 11:20:47 PM |
guys will always b guys.cheating runs in deir blood.afta dey wil say girls r wicked forgeting dat dey r d ones dat made gals wicked
SIRKAY | 6/30/2012 6:08:08 PM
You are a damn Loser! Just forget the whole dirty saga and move on. You took a revenge with your body? You got no shame! Hope you ve learnt a big lesson from this dirty act. Bye and be strong. Not the end of the world! Reply this thread
Taiwo Idowu NY. | 6/30/2012 6:20:49 PM
I never knew that there is something women call revenge sex.For what i read in the article,she said she knew that her ex boyfriend friend always have sexual tensions.Well.your dream finally came true.You did it you said it was good rtight?.What is there to regret?.Stop f**ling yourself and believe me the chance for reconciliation is Zero.You think you are hurting him, in the end you hurt youself.Even if he dumps the girl you saw him with.he will never come back to you.Go ahead find yourself another dude to service you because you sound like you are always ready.Don't get into any serious relationship until you decide what you want.As for men,sex is sex period no if or butt about it.Guys,is there something we call revenge sex?. Reply this thread
Eddie... | 6/30/2012 10:29:49 PM
You are SICK... WHAT ??? a revenge SEX ??? i think you need to be taken to the ZOO whrtr you belong... SHAME Reply this thread
B¡t¡ng Z£dd To€¥ | 7/1/2012 1:07:05 AM
I'v nt hrd of anythin called revnge sex b4! Wat? Are u kiding me? it's ur own body on d line baby!, nt d x boyfriend's own! How cu u hurt ur poor sef an call it "revenge" or mayb i don't kno wat is called revenge!?!? U mst b a shameless girl with high libido an broad space in ur heart where u can habour ragged, doltish doings....Careless sexmanaic! Reply this thread
Precious | 7/1/2012 2:54:47 AM
Is meaning ving a revenge sex. U r only spoiling ur name and image. Ur Ex- will only laugh and mock u; after all, u guys r no longer together. V nt had such and will never think of having revenge sex. The best way to get ur Ex jealous is to behave and act as if noting ever happen. Smile like never b4 and never ignore him. Reply this thread
Esebaby | 7/1/2012 2:58:45 AM
No need of laying abuses on her, I beleive most of us have been heartbroken once or even twice. U neva can tell what one can do when such (heartbreak) happens, mostly when u think d person is d one 4u. The thing is, she made a very big mistake by allowing her emotions control her. Neva d less, life goes on. U nid 2move on wit life, & also make urself a beta person. I know someday u're gonna find a beta guy dat will respect, value, and treat u like the queen u are... Reply this thread
Esebaby | 4/16/2013 3:22:39 AM |
Dats d truth bt d deed has been done. Life moves on
jenny | 7/1/2012 5:15:55 AM
Esababy wot u said is d truth n dat guy most suffer for it cuz he took her innocent away n d sin of d gal is on his head. Reply this thread
jadejeje | 7/1/2012 7:28:24 AM
I can't agree less with anna cos she jst made very valid point there, ladies I advice dat you give your guys some space cos being too obsessed can only turn him off and then before you know it the relationship is over and done with. Reply this thread
ANNA | 7/1/2012 10:38:51 AM |
Yes o dont be too obsessed with a guy biko,dey re not worth it lol
CANDYLUV | 7/1/2012 11:45:17 AM
What u did was wrong,but u just ve to move on with ur life. Reply this thread
Swt2 | 7/2/2012 2:39:22 AM
Even with dis kind bodi y the boy no go leave you?..................... My follow girls is high time to wear our thinking cap we nid to be extremely kiaful. Wat do you mean by revenge sex after exposing your ugly bodi to 2 friends dat doesn't worth it. Reply this thread
"O" | 7/2/2012 8:09:47 AM
Honestly, I really don't want to define you but unfortunately, your own words kinda establish you as a damn w***e with a very low esteem! Yes, your "boyfriend" dumped you and just because you liked the feeling of being wanted, you went for a jump off... isn't it? You felt good during the hot beef injection only to regret it because the other guy wanted you outta picture as soon as he ejaculated. My advice to you is this-work on your self esteem first... Reply this thread
Amelia | 7/5/2012 1:28:23 AM
Abeg Nfc make una commot dat wallpicture,so na dat kind body u use make revenge dat BOY REALLY TRY 4 U. Reply this thread
Chy | 7/5/2012 3:41:01 PM
Well u said it all, u and him are using eyes to do the thing before u ex deside to walk away. How are u sure he is no testing u, well pls my sister if this is a life story move on wit ur life, do not involve ursef in such act MEN they don't wot ur tears Reply this thread
da missisippi | 7/6/2012 9:31:17 AM
swt2 u sounded lik 1 of my lecturer dr onuigboje. He likes sayin dat word...put on ur tinkin cap.....i wanna knw r u a graduate of FUTO.....precisely....industrial chemistry department? Reply this thread
Fortunes | 7/9/2012 9:15:40 AM
U re the one always dumping guys; so how many have u dumped ? 100 , 50, or maybe they are too many and now u can't remember. When last did u have an HIV test ? If u re lucky to be positive, then go get married ( husband dey, just dat u dey busy de find more guys wey u go dump dat Y u neva marry. Lol. 2moro nah u go begin say na ur village pepl, na witch, na na so u want am LMAO. Tym de go oooooooooooo. Kisses Reply this thread
Fortunes | 7/9/2012 9:20:46 AM
re the one always dumping guys; so how many have u dumped ? 100 , 50, or maybe they are too many and now u can't remember. When last did u have an HIV test ? If u re lucky to be negative, then go get married ( husband dey, just dat u dey busy de find more guys wey u go dump dat Y u neva marry. Lol. 2moro nah u go begin say na ur village pepl, na witch, na na so u want am LMAO. Tym de go oooooooooooo. Kisses Reply this thread
abba | 7/17/2012 4:32:29 AM
Wow. Don't know hw 2 explain dis bt u f**ked off.beta 4get abt dis ugly incidence nd move on Reply this thread
Joy | 7/22/2012 11:21:43 PM
Una Neva hear say actress marry remmy don dey engaged 2 one njoku?una nor dey current at all,she announced it on fb fan page with d pics of both of them. We need d exclusive report,we trust u can do Dat?waiting for it. Reply this thread
Swaggarlicious | 8/11/2012 9:02:45 PM
Anna i so much love yah comment,ladies if u're goin 2ru a hrtbrk do sumtin u've nt been doing b4,wen u c d guy greet him,laugh wit u can even give him a hug bt make sure u put on dat beautiful smile of urs. Reply this thread
Edina | 9/25/2012 10:59:24 AM
I didn't make her happy and I didn't act like I loved her anymore or paid her any atitetnon. I prayed for her to come back and chased her to prove how badly I wanted to be with her and after 2.5 years she gave my another chance and we got remarried after that and had 3 more kids. I didn't want to loose her again so I did everything I could to make her happy. We went to counseling, we spent more time with our kids and each other, and I did everything I could to keep us together. About 4 years later, she started acting very distant towards me and the kids. She started spending more time with our best friends a couple we had known for 8 years, their 2 kids had been best friends with our kids. When I raised questions about this, she said that she needed time away from the family so I backed off. Over a 3 year period, she slowly was more and more distant and spending more time with friends. Her best friend over time confided in me that my wife was spending more and more time with my best friend, her husband and thought they were having an affair. I told her she was being c***y, that they would never do that to our families. Months after that, my wife became pregnant and I thought that this new child would bring us together. When she was 5 months pregnant , she came by my job with divorce papers, said you're not the father and left. I was stunned and embarrassed. I didn't want to believe it. I went home and all her things were gone and she went to the children's school and told them we were getting a divorce. I called her and demanded to know why she was leaving again and she told me that she had been having a 2 year affair with my best friend and her unborn child was his. I broke down. To think I trusted her, and to hear that was disgusting. I went to his house and confronted him. He said that my wife loved him and she was going to leave me and we ended up fighting and his neighbors broke it up. The next night, his wife called me and said that he told her about the affair and the baby and that her husband was leaving her. I wanted so bad for her to come back and I still do. Its been 3 years and she's still with him. After her daughter was born, we got a DNA test and he was the dad and now they also have a son together. He's gotten a divorce from his wife and my wife is trying to divorce me again but I just want her to be with me. Call me c***y but, I love her and I still want to work it out with her. My children are very upset when they visit their mother as well as his children are upset when they visit and everything is very complicated right now. I've begged her to come back but she just won't. I'm willing to forgive her and to except her two children, so is there anything I can do? Reply this thread
TEMYSEXY | 3/1/2013 5:27:05 AM
Looking gud n dresin nice luk beautiful n walk wit styles is part of wot can make u revenge.... Nt d s****dity useles ash*w* tin dat u went n do hmmmm pity ur toto 4u cos by d tym dos guys r tru wit u, u'l find it dificult to believ dat u just DISVIRGIN. just tk it easy ooo Reply this thread