Monalisa Chinda
Nollywood, screen goddess, Monalisa Chinda is no doubt, a beauty to behold any day. She is rave of the moment and she is sizzling hot at this time. Lisa who broke up with her erstwhile husband barely some months ago bares her mind in this extensive interview with Aramide Pius.
She spoke on her challenges as a single mother, her career and what life has taught her. Excerpt;
What has changed ever since you became a Glo ambassador?
Well nothing really in terms of my career. Only that I have to go Glo events. You know being an ambassador, you have to go their events and programmes. It has also made me realize that I’m not just an actress but that people are actually watching me. It has given me more self belief that I’m being noticed and appreciated for what I do. It is a privilege.
What is the first thing you do when you wake up in the morning?
I say my prayers after which I cleanse my face. After doing that I rush into the gym to work out.. I gym four hours everyday. Two hours in the morning and two hours in the evening, four hours of work out everyday.
Are you a colourful person?
Yes I love colours. You can see my house, it is a reflection of who I am. I’m a very colourful person and into interiors too. I love Peach, Pink and colours of that nature. I love babyish colours; I have always loved that since I was a child.
Are you a designer freak?
I love good and quality things, it doesn’t have to be tied to a particular name. There so many beautiful things out there that are not tagged to any name and you have some stuffs too that are good and made by designers that are not popular and they are really good stuffs. So for me, good quality is my watch word, not really the name of the designer on it.
With your busy schedule and the nature of traffic in Lagos, do you drive yourself or you have a chauffeur?
Yes I do drive myself. The traffic at our end in Lekki is timing. If you do not know how to time your way around Lagos, you will not find it funny at all. For instance, if I’m going out for the day, I will make sure that by the time I’m dropping my child off at school, I’m already dressed for my outing.
If I leave around 8 am, the traffic will not be as congested as it will be later in the day. Shooting around Lekki makes it better for me because of proximity.
So which programme do you love the most and that you watch?
I love to watch comedies because I love to laugh a lot. There is a particular comedy programme that I love to watch all the time.
There is also this programme where primary school questions are asked adults but then the adults have to rack their brains to get answers. I love the programme a lot. Such things trip me.
What is the most beautiful experience you have ever had?
Having my baby is that most beautiful experience I have had.
What is the craziest thing a fan has told you?
I can actually remember the day when a six year old baby who must have watched one of my movies the previous night where I may have acted like a bitch, saw me. Immediately, he just sat opposite me starring at me thinking of what to do to me.
Next he rolled a piece of paper and threw it at me. When the mother saw him, she was mad at him. He then came close to me to tell me he was sorry.
What is your favourite day of the week?
Well may be Sundays. You know after going to church to worship, you come home and rest or you go visiting family friends and all that but really, I don’t care about any day of the week.
Can you tell the greatest challenge that you have had to face in life?
I would say that the challenge is that right now I’m a single mother which is not exactly very rosy.
Of course there is mixed feeling when you are out there alone wit the child because of the different ways people see single parenthood. What really bothers me is the fact that the child does not have a father figure at the moment.
It is quite a challenge because I grew up with both of my parents living together and what has happened to me is something I never could have thought would happen to me.
But I had to take a drastic decision because of my life. I am happy to be where I am however and I do not have any regrets.
How is your daughter adjusting to single parenthood, is she coping?
She is fine but I really don’t know how to answer the question. She is there and she is fine.
Does she not ask after daddy?
She does not know who daddy is.
Really?
Yes, she doesn’t know who daddy is.
Could your being at the top of your career at the moment be associated with the fact that you are now on your own?
Yes I’m more peaceful with myself now. I’m at peace with my creator and I have no fear of anything that is going to happen. I’m as free as a bird to do anything I want to that which is good.
I already started up my charity work which I was not able to do when I was in bondage. Right now, I’m more pleased; I’m more creative, I’m much stronger…
I finally confronted my fears because then, I was usually afraid of the next moment.
But now, I have taken the bull by the horn and I’m bolder, I’m more confident and I don’t think that there is anything that will happen to me now that will make my legs wobble. No! I will stay strong. I think that is it.
kele | 7/18/2010 1:39:20 AM
daddy is very important in her life u wont want her to grow up that way u will regret it,u can amicably settle wat soever except u are still in luv with him which is natural at times so put down ur pride and try to work things out and pray mostly,we love u and God loves u more so do d right thing.
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Quit | 7/18/2010 9:43:34 PM |
kele, if the marriage is not working, is not working. it is better for a child to grow up with just the mum, than grow up with both parents and witness nothing but violence. I grew up with both parents, but my childhood was bitter. As a child i watch my dad beat hell out of my mum almost on daily basis. I secretly prayed for my dad to die so my mum will have peace. i will quit a violent marriage and wont encourage any woman to stay in such mess.
vivian | 7/25/2010 7:36:39 PM |
@Kele u r right if marriage is not working outit is better for a child to grow up with just the mum,than grow up with both parents and witness nothing but violence.Like me i have three kids but the violence and beating i face everyday is more than what a mad person can even endure.But today i give God the glory bcos he open another chapter for me.This is almost two years with no man and God have blessed in way i dont even imagine it.So far my kids are happy is ok for me.man is there or not it left for the lady or woman to know what she is doing and also be close and have fear of God in her.God bless you
Lillian | 7/18/2010 2:27:52 AM
The only different thing about this interview is the title. Same old interview i read about her months back.... Mona that little girl need a daddy in her life. And you daddy if you're reading this that little girl need you in her life.
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koko1 | 7/18/2010 6:12:32 AM
MONA WHY OP U CELEBS GIVE US LOADS OF s**t AND U EXPECT US TO BELIEVE IT, HOW CAN U WORK OUT 4 HOURS EVERYDAY 2 IN D MORNING AND 2 AT NITE, DATS BULLs**t... IF U TRY IT, U WONT EVEN WAKE UP D NEXT MORNING UNTIL AFTERNOON.. I AVE BEEN WORKING OUT FOR OVER 2 YEARS .. AND MINGLED WITH PERSONAL TRAINERS UR JUST BULLs**tING.. BABE.. ITS A BIG FAT LIE... U CANT EVEN WORK OUT FOR 2HOURS EVERYDAY... U CAN ONLY DO IT FOR TWICE A WEEK OR TRICE A WEEK
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ngozi k | 7/19/2010 6:10:16 PM |
i spend about 2 to 3 hours daily in the gym in my house and take note that it depends on the exercises u do.not all are tedious and people do sports for vaying purposes.u don-t tell somebody that she is a lier as if u live with her.must she look bony for u to believe her?
jojo | 7/18/2010 6:35:21 PM
God is de aswser 2 ur problem,pray 2 him n he jesus will listen 2 ur prayer.May be u d'not put ur marriage before him.Never lose hope jesus is with u.pray npresent ur request 2 him.
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bless | 7/18/2010 6:47:04 PM
monalisa,please and please again i'm one of your greatest fans, i admire you a lot, we were together at uniport, in the same dept but different year. i live abroad now and married. iam pleading with you please make efforts to reconcile with your husband, that beautiful little girl needs his presence in her life and you too. it's not easy but for the sake of your child, there is no perfect man, i do have problems in my marriage but with prayers and God on my side we are living in peace. just be prayerful,and leave God to do the rest, i know how you feel, but patience conquers all. a lot of children end up badly here because of the trauma of not having a father figure in their lives. that's why our mothers were able to make it in their marriages,patience. avoid bad advice from the wrong people, you're not the type to start living your life as a single mother.
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Sunshine | 7/18/2010 9:47:55 PM |
bless, shut up! You want her to live in voilence just to give her child a daddy? What if the man kills her one day? Then will the daughter have a mummy? Mummy and daddy which is more important to the child?
r*****h advice!
not applied | 7/19/2010 1:54:54 AM |
f*****h professionl spinster, you want her to be like you? if you find yourself in her possition you will even beg your husband every day, we know your type decievers.Monalisa,don't mind them they don't have, all they do is pull the married ones out.Your husband will not kill you just call on God, he will do everything.
prinsca | 7/18/2010 8:14:55 PM
single mother is a tough task
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Sunshine | 7/18/2010 9:51:01 PM |
Tough indeed, but what do u do when u are faced with it? Afterall, some women are wodowed early in life and God still gives them the strenght to care for all thier kids. So whats the big deal?
It is even easier whena single mother has a good source of income.
n/a | 7/19/2010 2:00:02 AM |
you are a professional spinster,your type are the ones that pull married women out and then move in with her husband,you will even be paying the man to be with you, women beware of people like these okokporo oh.......
kofi | 7/18/2010 9:20:12 PM
Mona, your litle girl is very lovely and she is no doubt in need to feel his dad's present! plz can you do this little girl a favour and tell her dady will be coming home one day? No matter what happend the child is important than the two of you so plz forget everything and let this girl see her dad even if the two of you are not compatible and cant work things out, do it for your girl
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bebe | 7/19/2010 5:23:24 AM
If you have nothing good to say; just keep quite and read other peoples comment and learn.
You probably don't understand what she's going through everyday with this little princess. No one prays to get married and get divorced just few months after. So dear commentators, be in shoe and remember her in your prayers.
Lisa, I understand what you're going thru but be strong, God will see you thru and grant you a perfect family.
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Austa | 7/19/2010 9:52:19 AM
Mona dear, only you can make the right decision concerning your life and that of your little girl. You can only do this by asking God for direction and guidance. I not saying that you should remain in a bad marriage, but also bear in mind that no situation in life is rosy. If you can sit back and make a list of both the bad and good things you have encounered in your marriage, the bad and good side of your man, if the good side of both outweighs the bad side, then you can still give ur marriage a go, that is if the man is still available. U will also have to do ur home work on urself, taking down ur own fault, we all have our faults. Then ask urself this question. If I had done it this way, would it had resulted to this? But in all, only can decide. but for the love of that little darling, don't be selfish in your overral decision.
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John | 7/19/2010 8:01:50 PM |
She should beter go and watch this film "WHY DID I GET MARRIED" by Tyler.
racheal | 7/19/2010 11:47:11 AM
I am a single mother, I give my daughter everything she is five year now and attain one of the best private school and I was surprise the day she ask of me of her father, because I never expect that kind of question from her seen then she is not happen me the father is in Canada.
When I told him I was pregnant he ask me to aborted the pregnancy and I refused and said he never want to see me again.
Please monalisa make peace will your husband for the sake of your little daughter, and your fans.
Regards,
Racheal
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Anke | 7/23/2010 12:12:52 AM |
I grew up without my biological father until the age of nine when my mum remarried. It was not an easy time for mum, grandma, and myself, but we managed because this was the way it was. So if Monalisa is happier, stronger, and more creative as a single mother, this means that she has taken the right step. I must say she has been looking absolutely gorgeous lately. My blessings to my favorite Nollywood actress.
cynthia | 7/19/2010 2:05:45 PM
mona my baby,i alwayz love ur style.that kid is very lovlly.pls if u know u cant cope with him anylonger,its better u stay on ur own but if u know u can cope ,pls go and make peace with ur hubby ok.only u know what u see there,marriage is not an easy task so ur in a better position to make a decision concerning ur life.even ur mother can not do it for you.wish you goodluck.God bless you dear.
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NINA | 7/19/2010 3:22:19 PM
u r a very nice lady and they say bad things happen 2 good pple.guess u must have been warned 2 steer clear before all this.Babes,quote me anywhere,yoruba pple r only good with each other 'cos they know wot d othe one did.they can neva change not even marriage 2 a miss universe will change that.they lie alot,cheat and above all very violent becos for no reason or the other they always feel intimidated.i dated one for 4 yrs,after that first 2 and half years of pretense and fake love n gifts not knowing all along he has always been cheating,wen i found out,i dumped his arse.u did d right thing girl,gone r those days of tolerating it n patience becos if u die there he will marry and continue his life within 1yr.ur baby will still know her father,i believe in time and when it comes,only u babes will know.keep on keeping on.........................
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Naomi | 7/19/2010 5:58:24 PM
Koko, are you koko master, you mean no one can walk out for two hours? i think its true, but what advise do you have for mona?. marriage is by grace and by luck. Mona seek Gods face, and follow her mind. But i will never compromise my haapyness for anything, not even marrige.
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kk | 7/19/2010 6:30:31 PM
It is only he who wears the shoe that knows were it hurts. We are all outsiders and cannot tell what exactly is happening. We can't also force a horse to drink water.Let her have a cool mind and decide 4 herself and if the man still loves her,he will woe her back as he did the first time. I am a man but i don't believe in women bearing all the torments and staying put cos of children.If some of u know what some of our mothers had gone through, i bet u that u won't allow your sister go through that nor make ya wives suffer same.
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Pam | 7/21/2010 9:28:10 AM
From Dejo's last interview, he was quilty and still quilty, sometimes he also blame monalisa's friends and cousin, but never accused his wife of any fault. something must be behind his actions.
Monalisa is an adult and only her can explain her experience, husband / wife matter only them can explain.
Dejo went wrong by always beating this fine young lady, monalisa's prayer is not to leave her matrimonial home, what she believes is love or marriage is not what she saw, after growing up with father / mother, wishing herself to be like her parents one day, but saw the other side of marriage, the shock will remain with her, i think she should be left alone for now.
God will answer her prayers, the girl will know her father one day, don't worry. The Lord is your strength.
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oge | 7/21/2010 11:15:19 AM
muna love,i really understand wat ur passing tru,thank God u said u never bargained for dis,And having to grow up with both parents u wont say u never witnessed misunderstanding between ur dad and mum,but it took d grace of God and wisdom for ur mum to with stand watever and stood with ur dad.What if ur mum had left ur dad,what would have bcome of u?cos ur so happy to have bin brought up by both parents.why not forget watever and give dat little girl such priviledge.my dear pls go back to him.
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wumziluv | 7/21/2010 4:30:57 PM
Just pray to God,and make sure your daughter know her dad
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DINIPRE | 7/22/2010 2:27:29 PM
PRAY TO GOD AND HE WILL DIRECT YOU AND REMEMBER THAT IF ANY MAN OR WOMAN DEVOICES ,HE OR SHE WILL REMAIN SINGLE UNLESS THE HUSBAND OR WIFE DIES IT IS ONLY THEN THAT YOU ARE FREE TO MARRY AGAIN SAYS THE BIBLE READ IT AND IT WILL HELP YOU MONA I LOVE YOU SO I HAD TO TELL U THE TRUTH.
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MAYRAJ | 7/23/2010 10:47:00 AM
HI SWEETIE
I LOVE ALL WAT I AV READ ON DIS PAGE BUT ONLY U AV AN ANSWER TO UR MARITAL PROBLEM.WE RE ALL TRYING OUR BEST TO HELP U MAKE A DECISIONS BUT
U ALONE AV D FINAL DECISION TO MAKE OK???
JUST GIVE HIM A SECOND CHANCE BCOS IF U ASK UR MUM,SHE WILL TELL U SHE ONCE GAVE UR DAD A SECOND CHANCE WHICH AM SURE DEJO WILL NEVER DO SUCH THINGS TO UR PRETTY FACE AGAIN.THE YORUBA PEOPLE RE HIGHLY RICH IN CULTURE AND DNT MIND WAT PPLE TELLS U ABT THEM BCOS THEIR IS NO TRIBES WITHOUT A COMA OK
IF U RE NT CLOSER TO GOD,DIS IS D RITE TIME TO DO SO.PLS STOP LISTENING TO BAD ADVICE.USE OMOTOLA JOLADE EKEHIDE AS AN EXAMPLE.SHE ONCE WENT THRU IT WEN SHE ACTED PROSTITUDES DAT HER HUSBAND'S FAMILY ROSED AGAINST HER BT SHE NEVER LEFT BT STAYED ALTHOUGH URS STORY IS DIFFER TO HERS BT WAT AM TRYING TO PORTRAY HERE IS DAT SHE KEPT HER HOME FROM PUBLIC DISTRACTIONS.DO THINK ABT IT.I WISH U ALL D BEST
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chi | 7/23/2010 10:24:26 PM
the way some people grew up have affected their lives,the can get married and live happilly like normal couples.especially the men,they feel the woman is a slave they can treat anyhow,they want her to bear every r*****h they do.no right to do anything,when hussy is coming back the whole house is shaking as if wicked ABACHA was coming .That is not marriage,mona,God will help you get that man that know what marriage is.Just be prayerful and you will see what God will do to make u happy.
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dayo | 7/29/2010 5:59:55 PM
mona is glo ambassador! Who is an ambassador? Glo definitely is profiting from her misfortunes. For me, an ambassador should be above board. If this is the type of ambassador glo is parade, the management of glo is irresponsible to say the least. God hates divorce. Mona the joy and peace of today might spell doom for you tomorrow.
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Straight talk | 8/9/2010 12:51:01 AM |
So divorcee, do not have the right to be normal or people in the society?Is people like you that encourgae abusive men to torture their wives, knowing what the society would say if she dare to live the relationship.I wonder who takes care of the kid,when he finally beats the hell out of her..Marriage is to be enojoyed and not endured.
Deborah | 7/31/2010 3:55:41 AM
Anyway I Think You Let Her No Her daddy Or How Her Is Pic.
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Deborah | 7/31/2010 3:56:16 AM
Anyway I Think You Let Her No Her daddy Or Show Her Is Pic.
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Winter | 8/5/2010 5:05:27 PM
I like the steps u have taken, it is better to quit a bitter union than stay.
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LOLLY | 8/7/2010 8:40:33 PM
THIS IS WHERE ARROGANCY HAS LED YOU, I CAME ACROSS YOU IN LONDON RECENTLY SOMEWHERE IN SOUTHEAST LONDON, I KNOW BY NOW YOU SHOULD REMEMBER TRY AND BRING YOURSELF DOWN A LITTLE BIT BECAUSE NO MAN WE TAKE THAT SHEET FROM YOU I REPEAT NO MAN WILL TAKE IT FROM YOU.
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peter | 8/16/2010 11:37:09 AM
The holy book says a good woman buildeth her home. Pls find a place in your heart to forgive this f*****h man you once loved. There is no perfect marriage without quarrels and the ups and downs. You will be surprised he'll gladly accept you and having passed through the fire, your union will enter another phase. Dont mind what friends say cos most of them dont wish you well. May God who instituted marriage direct you to take the right step.
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eyejay | 8/16/2010 12:44:44 PM
My dear Mona, I'm a great fan of yours. For your sake and that of your daughter, if he wants you back oblige him. The heat is off now . Let wisdom take its course.
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eyejay | 8/16/2010 1:16:40 PM
My dear Mona, I'm a great fan of yours. For your sake and that of your daughter, if he wants you back oblige him. The heat is off now . Let wisdom take its course.
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