.It's never too late to put romance back in your relationship. Every now and then a relationship could use some work. We have compiled a few tips on how to rekindle and maybe re-spark the flame that you once had with your partner. One important thing to remember is that couples shouldn't take their partnership for granted. We start by providing a few guidelines on how to rekindle a relationship. One of the easiest ways is to set up a date night because seeing each other throughout the day or just in the morning isn't enough, especially if you have children. Setting up a night for just the two of you to dress up and have a nice diner and then relax will bring the relationship closer. In addition to setting a date night up, being physical with your partner can help your overall relationship as well. Now when I say physical I don't mean, in the bed. Having a nice kiss on the lips or holding hands like you did when you were in high school can go a long way. It's a good way to show that you still care for the person without doing too much. Of course while these two tips are good, sometimes just simply having something in common with your spouse or girlfriend/ boyfriend is good too. If there is an activity that you both enjoy doing, then go do it together. Setting up plans to do activities together can give you a chance to reconnect and catch up with each other. A healthy long-term relationship is something to be proud of, and couples need to celebrate that. Make it clear to family and friends-and especially to each other-that your relationship as a couple is the most important relationship in your life. Don’t take your long-term relationship for granted "The mistake most couples or one person make is they're so much in love with their partner that they assume the relationship will last forever," says Robert Billingham, an associate professor in Indiana University Bloomington's Department of Applied Health Science. "They don't think it is something they have to work on." From a biological standpoint, human beings are not built for long-term romance, according to Billingham, whose research interests include interpersonal relationships, parent/child interactions and the long-term effect of divorce on children. Biologically, the body chemistry that makes our hearts flutter during a new relationship is replaced after several years with body chemistry geared more toward attachment, he says. Couples, therefore, need to work at keeping romance alive in long-term relationships. Make time for romance… It's good for your health Billingham says research indicates that people who divorce experience poorer health and a diminished quality of life, so longevity and overall happiness are additional reasons for keeping romance alive with the right partner. Finding time for romance is crucial to a marriage or committed long-term relationship, and it shouldn't be limited to anniversaries, Valentine's Day or other special occasions. 5 Tips for rekindling romance in your long-term relationship Billingham offers the following tips for couples who want to rekindle the romance and improve a long-term relationship: 1. Date your spouse or partner Find ways to spend time together and enjoy each other. "Individuals change. The relationship changes," Billingham says. "This core behavior (regular dating, emphasizing the relationship) says, 'No matter what happens, we find time for ourselves, find time to celebrate the relationship.'" 2. Make sure your children see your love for each other Parents spend 18 to 20 years preparing their children to leave home, and parenting requires sacrifices to properly care for children. But investments in a long-term relationship as a couple can benefit parents and kids alike, and make the "empty nest" seem not quite so empty after the children leave home. "If the kids don't see an emphasis on the relationship, what we model is that the marriage isn't as important as work, sports or other activities, Billingham says. "When they do see the emphasis, what we're modeling is that the marriage, the committed relationship is important. "[Emphasizing the long-term relationship] is crucial because we need to teach our children that our relationships are more important than things like work, movies and sports. We do a very poor job of this in our society." 3. Start today It's never too late to rekindle love and romance in a stale long-term relationship, Billingham says. Start from where you are, and begin doing things together that emphasize and celebrate your relationship as a couple. 4. Should you quit or recommit? Obviously, rekindling romance is much more difficult if one of the partners has fallen in love with someone else and is experiencing a new surge of attraction hormones that is pulling them away from their core relationship. It really comes down to conscious choice and commitment. If both people in the relationship can honestly say "I want to get this back on track," then there's hope. 5. Sex and romance Sex and romance can make life and your long-term relationship as a couple more pleasant and rewarding. Couples who are healthy, and who can sustain an active sex life, tend to live longer and be happier, Billingham says.
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