Bonding behaviours don’t operate on words or logic but on specific cues and signals, which are activated by both parties.
Experiment with the following to adopt a different approach to your sex life.
• Gaze into each other’s eyes for two minutes-more difficult than it sounds.
• Kiss with lips and tongues.
• Cradle or gently rock your partner’s head and torso(This works well on a couch, pillows).
• Hold or spoon each other in stillness.
• Make wordless sounds of contentment and pleasure.
• Stroke with intent to comfort, especially feet, shoulders and head.
• Touch and suck nipples/breasts
• Gently place your palm over your lover’s genitals with intent to comfort rather than arouse.
• Make time together at bedtime a priority.
• Have a gentle intercourse.