Though a recent study claims that a woman’s face is like an open book that reveals her state of mind, but men need to beware!
Better not take it as the last verdict, for irrespective of how much you trust and adore your little angel, women do lie to their significant others at times.
Sometimes to carry off a situation without hurting his feelings or to save herself from trouble, while on occasions to contain her emotions and pose as Ms. Goody…At times, she might fib to make her man feel better, to avoid a fight, or an embarrassing situation.
Laide Sotunde is here to lend a helping hand so that men can figure out when their adorable darling is not speaking her heart out so as to handle the situation with care…
Lie No. 1: “Oh! It’s fine. I’m OK”
Guards on guys! You must know that she’s not fine at all and nothing is OK. And sooner or later, you will have to bear the brunt of her pent up emotions that she has somehow managed to hold back until now. You’ll find her taking this emotional defence on occasions when you may have forgotten her birthday, taken her for granted or have done anything that hurts her.
Whenever your woman lets go off your not so fatal error with a cool ‘it’s fine’, know it’s nothing but the calm before a cyclone that you are fated to face in the time to come.
To portray that she doesn’t care, the emotional lady prefers taking a refuge in this lie.
Well, an experienced lover would know of the crime that he has committed, but the amateurs should look out for her reactions. She might not get vocal, but will do everything to make you feel guilty about the fact that you have hurt her. From being tight-lipped to giving the briefest responses that don’t go beyond ‘hmms, huhs or yes and no’, to mean tones and loads of sarcasm – are a few hints that you can look out for. “Women have a tendency of expecting their man to understand the said, as well as the unsaid, and that leaves men in a dicey situation. And even here, by keeping quiet or going away with a small ‘I’m fine’, she expects him to know that she’s hurt.
Lie No. 2: You can stare, I don’t care!
Either you are too lucky to have the coolest woman by your side, or you are getting an inflated ego without any reason if you believe her on this. No matter how hard she tries to look cool and composed, but the fact remains that no woman loves it when her man ogles at another woman. “After all, who wants to feel like second best? And the ‘I don’t care attitude’ is usually to hide the vulnerability and a pretence. Most women hate their man staring at another woman, it makes her think you fancy the other woman more.
She doesn’t want to show you how she’s feeling and is no less desperate to tell you that you are torturing her to the core. Well, easy indications to know she’s lying can be the trail of questions she’ll end up asking you. Casually and candidly, she’ll ask you things like ‘Isn’t she hot?’ ‘What makes her so hot? ‘Did you like her?’ She might appear to be your best buddy, but actually, she wants to ask you, ‘Do I score less than the chic you are ogling at?’ And your answer will decide your fate not immediately, but definitely in future, so better beware of what you say!
Lie No 3: Money is not important to me
humongous lie! Money is so important to every woman. Although it isn’t true that all women care about is the size of a man’s bank account, most women want a guy who is financially stable and independent.
Yes, if she really loves you, she will manage to cope with you for some time but brother, you better don’t be broke for too long. Every woman loves to be pampered and showered with gifts, every woman wants to look good, buy a beautiful dress, taken out for lunch or dinner, and wants to flaunt the nice things you bought for her to her friends but you sure need money to do all that. To get the very best out of her, you’ve got to work harder to gain that extra cash. If she tells you money is not important, then be a broke ass for more than a year (especially if she is a student or doesn’t have a job yet) and come back to testify.
Lie No. 4: I wouldn’t change a thing about you!”
Awwwww, no you are perfectly okay, I love you just the way you are and I wouldn’t change a thing about you. Honest!”
This is normally followed by the thought “apart from…” but they never say it. Although this can be said sincerely most of the time, there will always be one thing, even a tiny thing that your partner would love to change about you!
Lie No. 5 : 1 minute pls, I am almost ready /I’m on my way
If she tells you that she is ‘on her way’ or almost ready, brother please take your cool, open up a can of drink and relax a little! Because there is every chance she is not really ready. She might be trying on an outfit, taking it off again. She might be trying on the outfit she first tried on 20 minutes ago. Whatever it is, most times, when she says 5mins, give her additional 15 minutes or more because she has to shower, slather skin in moisturizer, apply 99 overpriced products, put on several layers of makeup, flat-iron her hair, pick out the perfect outfit that makes her look sophisticated/sexy/spectacular etc.
Lie No.6: My phone ran out of credit/battery/signal
If repeated regularly, this classic can mean any number of things, Maybe she’s getting bored with you, she was so busy that she forgot to call, she was actually waiting for you to call, or she intentionally switched off her phone for reasons best known to her.
She may really have a low battery/no call card at all. But then again, maybe not. There’s some reason she doesn’t want to talk to you, after all.