Charly Boy’s Message To All the Single Ladies! Read Now.
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So…Charly Boy has a very long message inspired by his daughter for all the single ladies out there.

All the single ladies reading this, chin-up and give your good self a thumb up. Nothing doest thou. Last week I had a father/daughter discussion with my Princess. I could feel the frustration in her tone as we spoke about different issues. When I asked about her boyfriend she gave me a very long and irritated “Naija babe” hiss, she aired out her frustrations with this whole dating business. “Daddy we are no longer dating.” “I’m so very sorry my love, but what happened I queried,” very anxious to hear the gist, cause me and my Princess are just that close.

This is my daughter’s 3rd boyfriend since she started dating, and she has only been with him for barely 6months… “Daddy, please I’m tired, he is not ambitious, he has no drive, and he is too laid back for his own good, how can I marry a man like that? To make matters worse, he thinks I am very ambitious, he says I do way too much – please tell me how that’s a bad thing.” Hummmmm, my daughter, my princess my pride and joy is unhappy.

You see since childhood, my Princess has been very independent, very focused and determined – no nonsense kind of ‘chic’, (can an apple fall too far from its tree). She is intelligent and extremely hardworking, I mean what more could a man ask for in a woman? Quickly, I was thinking of how to calm my ticked off Princess down. “Darling, you know daddy will always love you no matter what, most importantly you know damn too well that you are not under any pressure to get married. So be patient, concentrate on your carrier and yourself my darling, he will come when he comes, and if he doesn’t come, have your baby, I wouldn’t mind another grandchild.” Did I really say that? Oh! Yes I did, and I meant that.

Single ladies are on the rise these days, because for a long time coming, there has been an explosion of male joblessness in Nigeria and the world over. There has also been a decline in men’s life prospects that have disrupted and distorted the dating or the “marriage market”, in a way that narrows a marriage minded woman’s options.

Today all the Nigerian single “good” ladies who are desirous to settle down are at a cross road in their dating life, most of them are simply tired, a lot are frustrated and many are giving up. Their options are really limited; it is mostly between the millions of Gigolos or the deadbeat, some of who are pretending that they are waiting for Jesus before they get it together; those who don’t have ambition burning in their soul.

I can’t believe that I told my daughter to go ahead and have a baby out of wedlock. Well, with the way things are playing out in our environment, it is time we embraced new ideas about dating and marriage. Society’s highest institution called “Marriage” is fast becoming old fashioned and outdated. Look around and see the alarming rate of divorce matters all over the place, something is definitely wrong my people. At this rate, falling in love and getting married will be a question of choice rather than societal expectation or luck.

Frankly speaking, women have climbed so high in their independence and career and are doing way better than the men. Men have been falling behind with amazing alacrity. Good single women are so disappointed and it’s unimaginable, it’s like going to a party that has been the talk of the town for long.

You buy your new dress hoping to show off at the party, but by the time you land, they tell you that all the good people have left, and the ones left are really the servants, their friends or relatives who have come to scavenge on the left over food. Believe it or not, that’s the situation today, no kidding.

Since the days of my grandfather, marriage has been primarily an economic and political contract between 2 families, prized and policed by families, relatives and community. That’s why in my village, they will tell you “no be only your wife/husband you they marryoooooo” Things have changed since then, most of our dates are from facebook, bb chat, online dating, the hocus-pocus church called Pentecostals, etc.

There is no doubt in my mind that we are in the midst of an extraordinary change. The transformation of young outstanding women, considered marriage material, is momentous, immensely liberating and immensely scary for prospective suitors. All the old ways are breaking down, these days ladies want to be in-charge of their lives, you can’t blame them. Forget about the days of being submissive, na for your pocket. Forget about marriage vows where it says about obeying your husbands, hummmm joor, they are not slaves, understanding works better.

Do they need husbands to have babies these days? Please don’t get this twisted, marriage is divine and sweet when you can not only find a soul mate, but someone who can inspire you, respect you, love you, adore your feminity and independence. They are hard to find oooooo. My daughter knows that finding a good man is like finding a needle in a haystack.

None the less, should women feel psychologically defeated? Hell No! Most men who don’t know what time it is are still locked down with that old macho bullshit, that it is a Man’s world. Hummmmm for where, my people, women run things now, let’s get used to it, abegi, so our days on earth will be longer joor.

My princess, my baby, my joy, my little big girl knows that her character, her pedigree, her background, her ambition, her zeal and courage will most likely intimidate a lot of men out there, she realizes that this will further narrow her pool of prospects, just like she is also aware that with each passing year she is getting older and never younger but the options stay very limited. All I’m trying to say is this, I tip my hat for all the “good” single ladies out there, keep the fate, I admire your courage in not wanting to settle for any trash out there. If it doesn’t fit, trash it, finding a life time partner is not ‘moimoi’.

The world is already too troubled for you to be in a relationship that you know will not make you happy. Women can see these things ahead you know, that’s why they are a special breed of God’s creation. I have discovered lately that men need women in their lives to keep them stable, but if push comes to a shove, women don’t really need men, a case in point, ‘The great Oprah’. Yes, good men are hard to find, ask Lady D. Ha!!

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jasper | 8/17/2013 11:50:56 PM
Do u knw? Tiwa savage nd tee billz don pick november 23rd for their traditional wedding nd feb 2014 for their white wedding in Maldives island
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hmm
lolo | 8/18/2013 12:21:32 AM |
let gennifcukingve wit her sister rita pls try and scavenge on some of those good for nothing left overs o and wash them if they lik... SIMPLE
yes o
lolo | 8/18/2013 12:24:46 AM |
gennifcukingve and her sister are also feeling psychologically defeated..bliv it or not bcoz their poor pillow are suffering it
We don read and hear
Lalaland | 8/18/2013 9:14:30 AM |
If single ladies of now messed up when they are younger like genefhuckinve and them oldie mama rita then they will remain single! Even oldie mama uche had to go and find small boy to borrow as hubby!
This means that....
Lalaland | 8/18/2013 11:54:49 AM |
MRS OMOTOLA EKEINDE is a very blessed woman o. Not only did she marry her soul mate CAPTAIN MATTHEW EKEINDE but she has had her 4 children for him and the marriage is going strong as she was married at a very young age. Omotola defo get good head on her shoulders. In her day all them old mama rita dominic and genefhuckinve were all just fhucking about time thinking they have all the time in the world when men were asking their hands in marriage! Now where are they? They are roasting and the men ave moved on and married befitting wives.
lalaland
chibuzo | 8/18/2013 1:19:55 PM |
You have been hallucinating for so long. Infact, this illusion of yours is long overdue. Please, you need to really fight against it or go to rehab if you can, else you might end up living with it for the rest of your life.
chibuzo
lolo | 8/18/2013 5:36:57 PM |
see who is talking about rehab..heheheh u chibuzo?..ebi lik say that place has really done u well..u lik am abi?
Ahahahahahaaa....ehehehehehehe
Lalaland | 8/18/2013 5:52:55 PM |
Dearest slapface chibuzo is in serious dementia pains cos we are OMOTOLA crew! Ahahahahaaaaaa>>>>>eheheheeheeheheheheeee!!
na wa o
real pina | 8/18/2013 12:25:08 AM |
Charley boy it is well that is all I can say. Single ladies and single mothers please pray for God to send you your own man if you decide to live on your own and have baby on your own without a father, is that not committing sin and fornication, will you be the one running after men everytime for sex, what if your bed mate decides to get married to someone else 2moro then you will move to the next available guy even if he is a married man. what is charley boy teaching these generation sef am disappointed anyway this is the end time, God made woman to be under a man and not the other way round. Ladies change your ways and look upto God for a life partner stop looking for what is in a man's bank account if both of you should put heads together you will acquire your own wealth and know man will ask you if you know how he made his money. Men stop been too choosy and too bossy over women pray to God to direct your steps when choosing a life partner. men that are ripe for marriage should stop changing women like wrapper they should pray for God's directions to choose a life partner. My God will grant all you single ladies and single men that are looking for a life partner their heart desires in Jesus name amen. it is well
Wow
TONNED | 8/18/2013 7:24:35 AM |
This man is intelligent.area fada i salute u and thank u for ya wondaful advice for our ladies.i keep tellin them that u dnt live in frustration simply cos u wanna meet up to d societal expectation.u jst hv too live for yaself.ladies shud always strive to hv a career,the world is changing and since ladies dnt wanna b slaves to men anymo,they shud start buildin dia own careers and stop bn overly dependent on men.all the single ladies shud walk wit dia heads high cos trust me,God ll never judge u base on yo marital status.
Again
TONNED | 8/18/2013 7:31:32 AM |
I knw i can never cheat on my wife wen i get married.most men lack self control and they tell u its frustratin livin wit the same person for yrs.they ll start lookin for new faces.they cheat.some married women cheat with small boys and gals.my point is,pple get married n still sleep around.so if any lady wana stay single,let her do wateva she likes n fhuck whoever she wants n hv babies if they want!charly boy i support u 100%
Tone i***t
Cool boi | 8/18/2013 10:55:37 AM |
U ar s****d for telling women to be slut
Disillusioned faggot
Sexy virus | 8/18/2013 12:01:40 AM
This is Satan once again using a human vessel to spur what the almighty God has placed through marriage and spoil the world with his lie based on falsehood. We all know charly Boy is demonized and he plays the ostrich on satanic facts. Why on earth would a decent man ask his daughter to have a baby out of wedlock. Instantly he approves of pre marital sex. I can imagine how he displaces the word of God which clearly states that we women MUST be faithful to our husbands and he spills that lie from the pit of hell saying submissiveness is for the men's cup of tea. Well!!!! As for me I am submissive to my husband as commanded by God and most wise wives though very few would follow the same path with me. Only the f*****h ones would heed to such ranting of a demon possessed man for indeed most wives would not make heaven simply cause they lost touch of Gods word and commandment and stayed unsubmissive and repulsive to thier good husbands hence defying Gods commandment and soiling the basis if the home they were meant to build. As for charly boy..... Do give ur life to the lord and master Jesus Christ.
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sexy virus
Lalaland | 8/18/2013 11:57:12 AM |
You comment is sensible and i like it. But this world we are in is satans world that is why he is giving his daughter that advice.
Disillusioned faggot
Sexy virus | 8/18/2013 12:02:18 AM
This is Satan once again using a human vessel to spur what the almighty God has placed through marriage and spoil the world with his lie based on falsehood. We all know charly Boy is demonized and he plays the ostrich on satanic facts. Why on earth would a decent man ask his daughter to have a baby out of wedlock. Instantly he approves of pre marital sex. I can imagine how he displaces the word of God which clearly states that we women MUST be faithful to our husbands and he spills that lie from the pit of hell saying submissiveness is for the men's cup of tea. Well!!!! As for me I am submissive to my husband as commanded by God and most wise wives though very few would follow the same path with me. Only the f*****h ones would heed to such ranting of a demon possessed man for indeed most wives would not make heaven simply cause they lost touch of Gods word and commandment and stayed unsubmissive and repulsive to thier good husbands hence defying Gods commandment and soiling the basis if the home they were meant to build. As for charly boy..... Do give ur life to the lord and master Jesus Christ.
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Charly Boy
Founoue | 8/18/2013 12:20:39 AM
You are so right on point, I like the love you have for your princess but now I got why AFRICAN dislike you. You behave as a westerner. kudos to you. It takes guts to think out of the box
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Founoue
lolo | 8/18/2013 12:29:17 AM |
i think i lik this his piece...after all they no go lack both ways if they get men to be servicing n impregnating them in that over populated Nigeria their lives will move on
Founoue D Phool
Ideke | 8/18/2013 12:44:20 AM |
How does a westerner behave? So a woman who cannot cook, clean and keep a home is what you call westerner. You must have lived all your life in the village so far. What is the divorce rate in the western world? America and Europe today are advocating for women NOT to have children without a husband, and you call charly boy a westerner. you're a big phool and a village idioot. You think just bcos someone is a woman makes her a wife-material, have have wondered what men are looking for in a wife, if such girl meets the need of the man? faounoue you're a village idioot!
u are on point charly
chyvic | 8/18/2013 6:56:14 AM
It is the fact stop the pretence. Boys or men these days need to grow up and start taking responsibilty

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you
me | 8/18/2013 12:00:16 PM
End time.
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right to opinion
Quin | 8/18/2013 12:30:21 PM
I wonder why is so hard for people to respect others' opinions. Everyone is so entitled to express their own opinion so there is no need to call others people f**ls, i***ts. s****d etc just because they happen disagree with a topic. Intelligents people know how to present their case without sounding primitive and rude. Why can't nigerians interact when presented with an intellectual discussions that need to be approached in a matured manner. I believe in a marriage between two matured minded adults and not with a stubborn, control freak of a man that want to use man is incharge brouhaha to disrespect a woman. I rather be alone than be miserable in a unhappy bondage called marriage. As much as I do not like Charly boy's ways I still respect his opinion as person.
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marriage
emmi | 8/18/2013 1:11:41 PM
Very 9z speech,but pls don't listen 2 dat devil they call charly boy. A woman should b submissive. Agreed women are doing beta now,but marriage is ordained by God. Having children n staying as a single moder is not wat God expect 4rm ladies.
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well articulated
chibuzo | 8/18/2013 1:13:44 PM
The man spoke like someone who has a proper vision. Women need to get their own lives and forget about the bullshiit called marriage. No modafuccker can ever make your life complete, never. If you enter into a man's home in Nigeria without a carrier, a job or any stable business just bare in mind that u are a modern SLAVE. Marriage my ass
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well articulated
chibuzo | 8/18/2013 1:13:45 PM
The man spoke like someone who has a proper vision. Women need to get their own lives and forget about the bullshiit called marriage. No modafuccker can ever make your life complete, never. If you enter into a man's home in Nigeria without a carrier, a job or any stable business just bare in mind that u are a modern SLAVE. Marriage my ass
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Slapface chibuzo the chimp
Lalaland | 8/18/2013 5:49:59 PM |
So are you a gay then or what because you are against marriage btw a man and a woman.
for the records
chibuzo | 8/18/2013 1:23:33 PM
By the way, I am a man. So, u can see that I am just being real.
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Slapface chibuzo the chimp
Lalaland | 8/18/2013 6:56:35 PM |
Yes a real homo man!
LoLo and Chibuzo
ka | 8/18/2013 7:45:55 PM
There are times when you sound so intelligent.Good comments all the way.
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use ur brain
c man | 8/18/2013 9:16:48 PM
what do u think u will get from the memory of a mad man , charley boy is simply mad how can a father advice he's daughter this way, only a lunatic will say such a thing , i believe he should encourage her and advice he's daughter on modesty .
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fact
c man | 8/18/2013 9:20:47 PM
now tell me
who will like to have a lunatic like charly boy as his inlaw.
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lolo and lalaland
c man | 8/18/2013 9:31:05 PM
please what ever u do just try to show a little respect, do ever think that Genevieve is someone mother? at least for the sake of her daughter stop abusing her.
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How abt msge 2 de single men?
Chukwuemeka | 8/19/2013 2:21:55 AM
How about message to the single men? Charly boy you're a fella but like your name suggest, you sometimes talk like a boy. Maybe you should consider changing that name of yours from Charly Boy to Charley Man, and let see if you would still have the same philosophy after that.While you're advising your Daughter to get pregnant out of Wedlock,please don't forget to tell her to be sure of the man's identity,else you would have a b*****d for a grand child..
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Bam u re damn right charle boy
ewor | 8/22/2013 12:24:06 PM
i like this charle boy so much he always heat the nail right in de head long live charley boy i need ur contact 0233952633 a Ghanaian lady
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on point
leave her alone | 8/23/2013 1:35:37 PM
I agree wit u on dis charly. Wisely said.
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